Friday, April 25, 2008

Why memories hold our hands??

Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.
The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter,
"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."
The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand."
"What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father.
"There's a big difference," replied the little girl.

"If I hold your hand and something happens to me,
chances are that I may let your hand go.
But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens,
you will never let my hand go."

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond.

So hold the hand of the person who loves you rather than expecting them to hold yours...
This message is too short......but carries a lot of Feelings.
A point to ponder why relationships hold our hands its becauase we want them to be safe :)


Tuesday, April 1, 2008

(Story) Dont be too Busy - 4 A's

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to
find his 5-year-old son waiting for him at the door...

Son: "Daddy, may I ask you a question"

Daddy: "Yeah sure, what it is?"
Son: "Dad, how much do you make an hour"

Daddy: "That's none of your business. Why do you ask such
a thing?"

Son: "I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you
make an hour?"

Daddy: "I make Rs. 500 an hour"

"Oh", the little boy replied, with his head down.

Looking up, he said, "Dad, may I please borrow Rs. 300?"

The father was furious,"if the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow
some moneyto buy a silly toy or other nonsense, then march yourself to your room and go to bed.Think why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish behavior"

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.
The man sat down and started to get even angrier about
the little boy's questions.

How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down,and started to think:
"May be there was something he really needed to buy with that Rs. 300 and he really didn't ask for money very often!"

The man went to the door of little boy's room and opened
the door."Are you asleep, son?" He asked.
"No daddy, I'm awake," replied the boy.

"I've been thinking, may be I was too hard on you earlier",
said the man,"It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you.Here's the Rs.300 you asked for"

The little boy sat straight up, smiling "oh thank you dad!"
He yelled.

Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled some crippled up notes.The man,seeing that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.
The little boy slowly counted out his money, then looked up at his father.
"Why do you want money if you already had some?" the father grumbled.

"Because I didn't have enough, but now I do," the little boy replied."Daddy I have Rs. 500 now. Can I buy an hour of your time?Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.

Isnt this story touching i read this story when i got a forwarded mail i really wished to add something to it because or else most often we end up reading stories unheard we feel a tinge of emotion holding back for few seconds (esp when mails hit you in forwarded package ) and move on and switch on the music of daily life that is ofcourse our reagular hectic life.I wonder how many people need to get there food for thought from others once i was into a seminar an the orator said he is giving us food for thought and probably that made him think that it would be enough for us to realise of what that topic reflected i firmly believe if you are a human being who cannot reflect from daily life may be no amount of some external food for thought can help you its simply easy to understand you need to have an eye for details and yup see them observe till you feel like and then plan for your future :) .......well i guess the topic would go long if i keep talking about this so i better return back to my original thought (well sorta food for thought who really need this ;) )

No need to agrravate the whole senario because the simple act of the kid in the above story was enough for us to know what it mean :) so if you are one of those readers who can really identify with this story dont worry i am not here to make you feel guilty rather i am here to talk about something different :) for those who think this is merely meant for some parents think again :) because most often we come across problems regarding human relations which we cant handle lk going by physics we are under the effect of same frame of reference often effect by same feelings unlike the material problems where you simple chalk solutions....

Going back by this i felt like there are 4A's that can actually help you to amplify the amount of love you have in any relationship ( not going by only love please include respect understanding and humanitarian values too)...all upto you how many more alphabets you wish to add i feel like these 4 are simpler one's to apply for all :)
so Here they are --

Availability -- Are you available for your loved ones..??

Think upon i do not mean being available just at the time of need (esp if you have kids)....being available means making them feel comfortable to tell you that they can contact you talk to you and tell you things when they wish to .....for some simple reason that
1st kids cant often come up with an explaination of their
2nd for an adult all of us feel some inhibition to contact the person who says i am busy and still says i am there for you its rather contradictory.

Appreciation -- How often do you relly appreciate people
for the simple things they do??Do you?

well most often we dont esp if our wife or kids do the small things they do often for us .....ok or if not then your secretary who without any reason at times listens to your squall??? or to those of your friends who often add more meaning to your life.
Life isnt just the same ball everyday like with friction of time it gets eroded and so we need to renew it no way can you change things and still expect same satisfaction.
Well appreciation esp when little things add more meaning to your life when done regularly are more meaningful and please they feel anybody would call you chivalric its a plain thank u with a smile :)

Affection -- do we mistake affection it with love??

Two different words yet each one holds powerful emphasis on relations...Get affected make them belief you care simple connectivity can do that magic tell them how happy you are when you are with them dont let all things be left to be understood at times speak and say to them.

Accepted -- Everyone wants to be accepted as they are
isnt it???

Well i thought would leave the BEST for the last if you miss this you miss the whole meaning .......
Be it kids or be it an adult they want to be heard only when you are available, can appreciate them say and feel affectionate towards them...but above all for anything they do (as a mistake) they wish to be ACCEPTED..
As a child make your child feel world wont end if things go wrong initially be there for them to tell them life offers a chance to correct it again but not always so they need to learn rather than simply make them feel low because you feel being a stern parent with no time is more apt NO ITS NOT i am sorry i dont agree.With other relations it applies as well trust can only be established once you know you would be Accepted.

Well this had been a long long post so i felt i wont add more after this thats why restriceted with 4A's you sure can add more meaning and depth you your relations with many many more alphabets not alone A :) so Happy parenting nuture relations and treasure them ..

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