Tuesday, July 5, 2011

You have a CHOICE


Life is a powerful journey an empowering journey that is woven around us by our choices. Every second when we do something (or don't do anything) is dictated by the choice we make. People make choices based on various things around them ask a little child what you want to be in 90% cases he chooses to do what his parents do and those 10% who choose to do something different also choose to strengthen themselves during their own adventurous journey. But the point is all Choose.

We have a choice. From birth ..a baby chooses his time of birth grows and pushes his way out, baby chooses to cry for his food, baby chooses to find a way to crawl and walk. I have encountered people who had the worst of situations from the time of their birth but they have chosen not to regret not to cry not to loose , it took them time and struggle ....their share of hardships but they overcame everything with their courage. Every time they chose courage over fear they radiated success.

Sometimes i wonder how to define success. Many home makers time and again create a fact for themselves that they are unsuccessful, they have failed in what they wanted to achieve that they have no identity for themselves. Once again it is matter of choice, when they were getting married they chose to coyly follow their husbands irrespective of the bad treatment meted to them so they chose fear. When they repeated the thoughts of hopelessness and unappreciated thoughts about self they chose negativeness and self deterioration now they question why am i not valued ??

Success should create and aura of happiness around yourself , make you feel appreciated valued and loved. Now if at every step we let others decide whether I am happy valued or loved or not would i be successful ? We made a choice again of giving every one the right to prove us wrong.
Our choices make every bit of life that we want to create for ourselves, over the time i have understood one thing the power of belief that every self guru author talks about is nothing but making a choice. Belief can never work wonders with anyone if only you thing and not make choices according to it.
Let us say you want everyone to love you. You work on the belief of it and create thoughts of every one being happy with you.But when you see yourself in front of mirror you ridicule your body, your face, your complexion etc . Which belief should work you think ? Can thoughts work if you do not put them to practice ?

Yes choices may go right or wrong. They can make us happy or upset us. But at the end of the day you know you have done the right thing and are ready to take the responsibility of your actions because it was your choice no one pushed you into it. Facing life or running away is again a choice in your life.

adios :)

16 comments:

AMAN BAHL said...

yeah, we have choices at every step of life, .. but what is missing is freedom to choose among them, we are not so free to choose always !!!
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The art of choosing between the given choices is analytic intelligence, or logical intelligence. Life is much more than making choices ... !!
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very well written
it was a nice read :)

Shreya said...

@Aman... Freedom is an instinct that comes when you are free from attachment around you. Attachment binds us and causes fear of losing something if we choose. Imagine if India was still attached to the idea of being ruled by so called civilised britishers we would have never got swaraj :)
Choice abolishes fear it over comes attachments and bondage's of mindsets.
:)

AMAN BAHL said...

Yeah
right
but we still haven't got swaraj :(
(as per gandhiji).. now we have more choices but less freedom :|
so number of choices have nothing to do with the freedom ..
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freedom is not when u r free from attachments around you. That is only one aspect of freedom. Because we are always aware of attachments, but mostly our freedom is restricted by our own believes about which we haven't even thought of :)

Shreya said...

Yap as per Gandhi ji's vision we haven't.
Now coming to your next point ya number of choices have nothing to do with freedom but attachments to your own belief system has. Attachments not only to others but self also , our own gathered beliefs that restricts us from choosing something . Sometimes we dont have the dare to face the consequence of what might happen if we chose a way... again having fear in heart and making an excuse of unawareness is again our choice.

It is basically interlinked pattern of one choice after another. Consciously or subconsciously made at the end of the day it still is our choice.
:)

AMAN BAHL said...

yeah
agreed agreed :)
One aspect of my saying was that if you have more number of choices, your creativity dies down, you can not come out of that choices, so number of choices doesn't always ensure more freedom.

Anonymous said...

beautifully written shreya...
so many times we make the choices with the intention of pleasing someone..with the fear of hurting someone...with the fear that we will not be loved or liked if we choose to do what we want to do..ultimately we reach the saturation point and decide to live by what we choose, it is not appreciated 'coz people are used to us being doormats. :)

Shreya said...

@Aman ... That is a whole new topic dear freedom and number of choices and creativity i agree to your aspect too. But as long as we feel empowered because of the no. of choices with us we can at least approach life positively :) isnt it?

Shreya said...

@Anonymous...Thanks dear :) the truth is we let people make us feel like doormats and it is after a long time we realize i need to love myself and be happy with myself before loving anything and anybody else. It is not being selfish it is taking care of your emotions and respecting your ownself.
Feeling good is the 1st step to self empowerment honestly :)

btw Welcome to my blog :)

AMAN BAHL said...

@shreya
yeah yeah sure . !! :) :)

AMAN BAHL said...

@shreya
yeah yeah sure . !! :) :)

AMAN BAHL said...

"Feeling good is 1st step to self-empowerment" nice...

Shreya said...

:):)

Anonymous said...

Agreed Shreya Dear….But it’s a wee bit difficult…unless and until we make a conscious decision to let go of the old and embrace the new. It doesn’t matter what’s happened in our past, it’s time to forget what lies behind and make the choice to look forward. Yes, again it boils down to one thing – CHOICE :))))))

Shreya said...

@Anonymous .... see you have already understood it :) of course everything boils down to our choice because you cannot change what has happened and what may happen the only thing you can do is choose according to the best of your knowledge and wish for +ve.

Trust me it is something that makes you truly powerful. You make one choice and accept it you then get mentally prepared for the consequences that come :)

Thanks for reading :)

anamika said...

you look very pretty Shreya :) and we r so fortunate to have choices and being responsible for our choices is something which few know :P

Shreya said...

:) aww .. ana thank you :P you made me blush :P

& so true na even if we know we choose we forget taking its responsibility :)

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