Friday, October 31, 2008

Compromises !!! The KEY to Love

Compromise is to relationships as a sail is to a boat.
Without it, you have a relationship that goes nowhere.”

In any relationship, compromise means give and take, and it’s a part of daily life for all couples from small fights and teasing to loving each other,holding hands and caring for each other..everything speaks but sometimes you need to speak your love show you love show your sacrifice its important even though you are deep buried unexpressive person always know love and romance needs to be shown too after all we are al humans :) at the same time..........
You may want to spend your holidays on the golf course and while your partner by walking on the beach, but a bit of both is what makes a relationship work.
Compromise is allowing for things to get in the way of your ideal daily life for the sake of your relationship. What may seem like a disadvantage at first quickly changes into one of the greatest advantages of your life when you realize that from compromise comes the base of your relationship. It makes it stronger. Understanding how compromise works in any and every aspect of your life will give you and your relationship a better chance at going the distance.

What most often people dont get is that no one can have complete happiness ie two people on earth cannot be completely same you may have same traits same ideas but your wishes cannot really be same,honestly speaking compromise or sacrifice is something you do for your loved
one's because you dont feel the pain of doing so for them.Compromises doesnt mean that your partner is sad when he/she is doing them for you, it doesnt mean your relationship is incompatible or cant work beacause one of you is sadly or without will sacrificing NO please just means have a look at them and appreciate the efforts..

Compromises works where both partners are looking into same direction and walking together towards can often compromise about what you wanna eat where you wanna eat but you cant comprmise is there is a Fundemental Difference of opinion in both the partners.For
eg you can compromise about wat colour your room should be but what you cant compromise is when you wanna work while your partner doesnt agree so, you are far too outgoing wanna drink or smoke and your partner too shy avoid public glare, when both of you given same situation one judges it as right other as wrong..etc etc
While if you dont have fundemental difference.... Problems can also come when in the long run after your marriage or love you donot even realise your partner makes several compromises for you to keep you happy big or small he/she might be doing it for you to se you happy while you keep ignoring it in the long run without even realising that it pent's up deep agony no not anger agony or pain into your partner about being ignored.I can give you several examples of these -

lets take your housewife or mother of your kids after some 8 to 10 years down the line you dont even realize that your wife who has her own identity and personality has sacrificed all her wishes for your family and kids and bears responsibility of your kids alone while you find this as her regular job at pents up deep feeling of being a failure at home while you enjoy the outskirts of the world their praises being the money earner....when your partner waits for you at home,for your calls and you feel there's no need of doing that its useless....

its all care

and your partner wants you to recognise that you do
understand these small hints in life it makes up big time in

Communication between partners without fear or fight is a great boon essential to live your life and help fulfill your partners wishes genuine wishes(in terms of feelings and being loved) not alone material wishes.When you talk with your partner make sure that both have the will to talk and listen to each other, if either of them prior to the discuss bosses around about not recognising your feelings the communication is bound to be a failure there's no success when there's no will im sure you all know it.But there's something more to it :) well for all this your partner and you both need to have clarity of what you want as in terms of result like for eg you want more happiness? more peace? more time with each other? more excietment in relationship etc etc list goes endless ....

Make sure your partner is intelligent enough to talk about
all this and you can gain something out of it too as you
know NO ONE IS PERFECT so there's no harm learning how
you behave or what you do that hurts him/her...there's
always scope for better life when you want to grow with
your partner :)

Anywz to cut the long story short
Compromises are good only when both partners know and recognise that other one
is compromising for his/her love's sake , you need to handle
it really intelligently. And most importantly Compromise is a word that can add golden shades to other relationships also lk who knows even out there your best friend is doing some
compromises for you to be happy....keep a watch :)

Stay happy with your loved one's
(i would cover something about ego in relationships soon...)

adios for now :)

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

CrossRoads - Parting of a Friend

A tear comes to my eyes,

when I think of you,
And remember the time when our friendship was new.
A gentle smile that had centered on your face,
And I knew that then was the time and place,
I thought we'd be forever and never part,
But Now, now we have come to a fork in the road,
Where we must no longer carry each other's load,
Let the burden off our shoulders and please donot leave a Scar,
For the paths we are taking are very far apart.
Though I will always cherish forever the time we've spent together and miss the time light as dew.
But now is the time where I say GoodBye,GoodBye to all my memories with you.
So I Spend one last minute lost in tears in my eyes.
And welcome the new dawn for new ties.
adios :)
Happy journey for life.......

Friday, October 24, 2008

Unconditional Love

Thought of sharing a forwarded mail with you all ashort story quiet again an emphasis on relations and love shared read it you might like it :)


Some time ago, a friend of mine punished his 4 year old daughter for wasting a roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became infuriated when the small child tried to decorate a box to put under the tree. Nevertheless the little girl brought the gift to her father the next morning and said " This is for you Daddy."

He was embarrassed by his earlier over reaction... He opened the box and his anger flared again when he found the box was empty.

Then he yelled at her:
DON'T YOU KNOW when you give someone a present there's supposed to be something inside of it???

The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and said,

Oh Daddy it's not empty, I blew kisses into the box , all for you Daddy.

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little girl, and he begged her for forgiveness. My friend told me that he kept that gold box near his bed for years.

Whenever he was discouraged he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there. In a very real sense each of us has been given a gold container filled with unconditional love and kisses.

*Unconditional Love doesnt often demand anything from you it will never ask you anything.

**No guarantee is kept for the trust placed its mutual. Forgiveness and acceptance is the 1st rule you cant love if cant do either of them.

***It Often will not be able to decorate its love but would do something so unique would make you wonder there's nothing better you could have expected.

**** Love is quiet and that is when it speaks volume. Loved one's will never speak of what sacrifices they can make for you, will rather make sure that for them YOU NEVER COMPROMISE ON YOUR HAPPINESS :)

***** Its beauty is to be in heart bz you trust the loved one so much you trust they will never give you a heart attack.

****** You are most vulnerable in front of them yet you feel secure in their company.

******* Your love might stand far away from you,esp when the world flocks around might be the center of attraction for others but for your loved ones you are just their world...

Unconditional love is bondless yet visible to the two who love each other. World needs language they dont.Its just their presence that makes you feel happy. So, There is no more precious possession anyone could hold. ITS PRICELESS...

adios :)

Friday, October 17, 2008


I am sure life will hug me again I will fly again , will be happy again......
sitting at the close comfort of fire i think again ...
and sing the ballad of life again.....
certain from centuries is the truth of life thats lives and leaves you within
truth of life tells you its only you who knows you best a breath escapes and spells shadows on your life to know you are lonely again...
with lonely furrowed life you sing the ballad of life again...
Thousands of thunders have surpassed you,hundreds of
times you have been struck are hit once again
feel shattered and hopeless and you feel lk breaking it over

But you wake up to the sun again...
sing the ballad of life again ...
once again you live to prove your might again ... there's no end to the agony you feel in life but there's also no end to the joy you express with it..
you wake up again only to find that you can smile again..
you can live again...
you may have felt the pain
but sure it has bought in certain gain
so whatever has happened hasn't happened in vain
so forget the past and juz put it into the drain
and enjoy the present like a small kid enjoys rain :)
- adios :)

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