Why we do things unknowingly

Sometimes quiet unaware we pick up traits of many things around us and keep pretending to act like that till long. Most often the trouble comes when we out trait hinders or hurts anyone else. I stumbled upon this topic because last week i had been watching too many of english movies and before i could realise i started saying "oh shit" and "what the f***" in everything almost every sentence and suddenly i was like why am i doing this ??

Everything around us affects us i mean everything. From words to wisdom , from cry to courage , from movies to motive and from love to lust. I know we dont chose everything that surrounds us but being human beings we do have the courage and understanding to control our minds that subconciously sets our behavioural pattern to adapting surroundings. Nature and behaviour of a man is set and defined by himself and himself only, sometimes we hear our inner voice saying "why am i doing this ..i know its wrong" but we dont stop.

Some people find it easier to categorise one behaviour as good and bad to prevent themselves from repeating the same like if you consider violence bad then you would prevent yourself from repeating the same but if you somewhere in your heart hold gallore for violence or the person who conducts violence you are bound to repeat it at some point or other... no matter what you do to stop it.

Even in a positive frame of mind one can sway away but it returns back to place when you know its wrong. I think there are a few traits a positive mind always follows and once you drift away from these you'd know something is not so correct inside you.

With +ve mindset...

• You are more creative.
• You think more clearly.
• You strengthen your ability to concentrate on quality thoughts that in turn produce good feelings.
• You acquire more self-respect and respect towards others.
• You generate the ability of self-control and strength in difficult situations.
• You overcome pressures and worries more easily.
• You experience peace, calm, serenity and happiness.

I have taken a break from movie watching for now and feeling better being back to myself. For next time i have decided to use an advice of a friend whenever you are tempted for something you know is wrong keep saying yourself "what is wrong is wrong".

I am not trying to decide for anyone else but me so i'd use this idea.

adios :)

Can Love and Freedom co exist ?

When we think of love .. do we think of freedom? Yes we do. It is why today's generation has found various forms of loving that can help them preserve their freedom. But yet somewhere down the line they know when you are in a relationship be it live in or open or marriage or whatever you are bounded to an extend and your freedom is compromised and more so if you are really committed.

So Can love and freedom not co exist ? Yes. To reach this state in a relationship great wisdom is required. Most people love one another and tie one another down. Often when we look for love we see it as a means of self recognition of our inner values our belief system. This requirement motivates us to praise and appreciate the other person who comes close to the picture of perfection.
But we forget the other person is not perfect. :) He or she are also part of the same journey the same search as you are.



We all have an emotional need for love and we are afraid of being left unsatisfied. In our search to fill our need we compromise and deceive ourselves with unsuitable partners. Many people allow the love of another person to define their personality to such a point that, if they are rejected, they lose any sense of who they are and of the purpose they have in life. Often the relationship is colored, through one of the partners or both, by fear.

To Free ourselves and to true make your love meaningful we need to overcome our fear or rejection. We need to have a strong heart, a selfless and self contented heart , a heart that love his ownself with a meaning, a heart that is capable of keeping his surroundings happy, a heart that can accept rejection. A heart that has given up old beliefs and negative thoughts, that has overcome bitterness of past , free from grudges , free from heart breaks ....... A heart that is at peace with itself let your heart feel light only then can you reap FAITH. And where Faith and Peace survive there's no place for fear. Your love and freedom will flourish in a stronger and happier heart.

adios :)