tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post8356061738164088733..comments2023-10-19T04:51:55.193-07:00Comments on Meet me -- SHREYA: Art of dealing with Negative Emotions of others -- Sympathy, Empathy and CompassionShreyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15186435108883720247noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-79861280290899229412013-06-04T17:18:31.523-07:002013-06-04T17:18:31.523-07:00Good post! We will be linking to this particularly...Good post! We will be linking to this particularly great article <br />on our site. Keep up the good writing.<br /><br />my webpage ... <a href="http://penny-stock-social.com/blogs/viewstory/31846" rel="nofollow">http://penny-stock-social.com/blogs/viewstory/31846</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-74924305536243055612013-05-28T21:07:27.152-07:002013-05-28T21:07:27.152-07:00Thanks for a marvelous posting! I really enjoyed r...Thanks for a marvelous posting! I really enjoyed reading it, you can be a <br />great author.I will always bookmark your blog and definitely will come back later <br />in life. I want to encourage you to ultimately continue your great job, have a nice day!<br /><br /><br />Feel free to surf to my webpage ... <a href="http://complaindrain.com/read_blog/123785/used-office-furniture-can-reduce-your-equipment-budget" rel="nofollow">office furniture credenza file cabinet</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-87942108893788302822013-05-03T07:04:07.664-07:002013-05-03T07:04:07.664-07:00@Adhi Das ... Thank you for reading this piece. Ke...@Adhi Das ... Thank you for reading this piece. Keep visiting :)Shreyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15186435108883720247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-82502893226677499432013-05-03T07:03:18.252-07:002013-05-03T07:03:18.252-07:00@JLTan ... Honestly we are all in the practice mod...@JLTan ... Honestly we are all in the practice mode , we keep shifting from sympathizing mode to empathizing mode. Compassion is perfectness so obv God is compassionate always. But being his children we are definitely capable of achieving it someday.<br /><br />Thank you for your comment :)Shreyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15186435108883720247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-41181960211741669902013-05-02T21:21:10.778-07:002013-05-02T21:21:10.778-07:00an Interesting Read..GOD<3Uan Interesting Read..GOD<3Uadhi dashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15945609464117886294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-17201850935404658322013-05-02T17:48:27.982-07:002013-05-02T17:48:27.982-07:00Thanks for the explanation.
I agree - I am more o...Thanks for the explanation.<br /><br />I agree - I am more of an empathiser moat of the time, like most people. Jesus is compassionate though.JLTanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00794087765993583616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-57860543092613045872013-05-02T07:25:33.073-07:002013-05-02T07:25:33.073-07:00@Shruti Thank you for inviting me , shall visit so...@Shruti Thank you for inviting me , shall visit soon.<br /><br />@Dinesh Sahay .. Your book and blog are wonderful as well. Hope to be enriched with its benefits soon. Thank you very much for linking my blog and keeping your comment here. :)<br /><br /><br />@Irmãos de luz ... Thank you for visiting and placing your comment. Appreciate your gesture.<br /><br /><br />Regards<br />ShreyaShreyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15186435108883720247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-52268947901684975612013-04-29T21:51:22.770-07:002013-04-29T21:51:22.770-07:00Hi Shreya,
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IN VIEW OF THE YEAR END BUSY SC...DEAR SHREYA JI, <br /><br />IN VIEW OF THE YEAR END BUSY SCHEDULE, I COULD NOT RESPOND IMMEDIATELY.<br /><br />WE SEE MANY PEOPLE AFFLICTED BY NEGATIVE EMOTIONS/DIFFICULTIES/TURMOILS ETC. PEOPLE SYMPATHISE OR EMPATHISE OR COMPASSIONATE DEPENDING UP ON THE LEVEL OF ATTACHMENT WITH THE PERSON OR ANIMAL OR ANYTHING ELSE. <br /><br />YOU HAVE CLEARLY DEFINED THE DIFFERENCE IN THE BEHAVIOUR BY GIVING MEANING TO THE WORDS. EXACTLY IT HAPPENS LIKE THE WAY YOU HAVE NARRATED. <br /><br />WE CAN ADD ONE MORE CATEGORY WHO JUST EXHIBIT FEELINGS BUT DO NOT FEEL THEM OR DO ANYTHING ABOUT OTHERS PROBLEMS. <br /><br />AS YOU SAID MANY A TIMES WE DO FALL IN TO EMPATHISERS GROUP WITHOUT OUR KNOWLEDGE. IN THE PROCESS OF EMPATHY WE LOOSE SIGHT OF SOLUTIONS AVAILABLE. EMPATHY IS MORE DANGEROUS BECAUSE WE ALSO SUFFER BY WHICH WE ADD TO THE AGONY OF THE PERSON ALREADY SUFFERING. AT THE TIME OF EMOTIONAL LOW, ONE NEEDS SUPPORT NOT BECAUSE HE CAN NOT SUPPORT HIMSELF BUT BECAUSE OF THE CLOUD BUILT BY EMOTIONS, THE PERSON IS NOT ABLE TO FIND THE SOLUTION. <br /><br />YOUR SOLUTION TO FALL IN TO 'CARETAKER MODE' IS VERY APT. THIS IS BECAUSE WE SHOULD FIND SOLUTIONS TO OTHER PERSON'S PROBLEMS WHICH CAN BE DONE ONLY WHEN WE ARE IN 'OBSERVATION STATE'. WE SHOULD HAVE STRONG COMMITMENT TO SOLVE OTHER'S PROBLEMS. THIS COMMITMENT IS BOOSTED BY OWNING THE OTHER PERSON AS 'CHILD'. YES, I AM REPEATING WHAT IS TOLD BY YOU. YOU MAY BE BORED WITH THIS. <br /><br />SHREYA JI, A NICE ANALYSIS OF BEHAVIOURS DONE BY YOU. BEST PART OF YOUR ARTICLES IS THAT THEY EMNATE FROM EXPERIENCE. WRITING OF THIS STANDARD CAN COME FROM A PERSON WHO HAS SUFFERED AND HAS SEEN BEHAVIOUR OF PEOPLE WHO CAME TO YOU AT THAT TIME. <br /><br />I DO NOT GET EXHAUSTED APPRECIATING YOU FOR THIS. <br /><br />REGARDS<br /><br />SATHYA PRAKASHSATHYA PRAKASHnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-4381969928001482862013-04-04T07:18:01.520-07:002013-04-04T07:18:01.520-07:00Hii Nirmala,
It is always so nice to see you here...Hii Nirmala,<br /><br />It is always so nice to see you here :)<br /><br />Thanks for your comment first :)<br /><br />2 points that i could understand from your comment was <br />a) Being Self compassionate -- because true we have never been taught to be loving towards our own self. Even today when men cry they think its cowardice i mean i never understood why such an essential emotion is called cowardice but still yes we have never been taught to love ourselves.<br />I did mention a bit of it in the above comments with James but if you insist i shall write a post on it.<br /><br />But not actually on Self compassionate but on Self reliance because in my opinion our self reliance is limited to only physical entities like financial and physical freedom but emotional reliance .... we never think of it. So yes thanks for bringing this up i shall be putting up an article soon on it.<br /><br />b) Important point: What if the child is clinging?<br /><br />What do we do if the child is clinging to you physically ?<br /><br />Some of us hit the child to remove him.<br /><br />Some of us just remove him physically and use a commanding approach.<br /><br />Which one do you think would work better as a compassionate ?<br /><br />I think the 2nd one. From what i have observed is when you are compassionate you are trying to make the child Independent without any dependency on anybody.<br /><br />In that real process .. you tend you choose paths in which the child himself needs you for a very little time till he senses a sense of power that is associated with Independence.<br /><br />Like a child who is learning to walk , the child needs you till the fear of falling is there... after that the child just keeps walking.<br /><br />Yes it is a challenge to be an anchor and compassionate. But that is the whole creativity Nirmala :). We are all creative human beings.<br />Do we really want to just stay connected with people via mobile , internet and meets ?? and not connect through hearts?<br /><br />If what i have felt is right then when you actually try be compassionate then to those who you have helped create a sense of gratitude for you for a life time. Your presence and absence does not matter then and a beautiful relationship is established for a lifetime.<br /><br />But yes it is difficult but not impossible.<br /><br />Let me know if you have more query dear.<br />And sorry for delayed posting of answer i was a bit busy.<br /><br />Keep smiling and thanks again :)<br /><br />Love<br />ShreyaShreyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15186435108883720247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-70012542759745192382013-04-03T23:44:33.122-07:002013-04-03T23:44:33.122-07:00Oops..it is not anonymous! it is Nirmala :)Oops..it is not anonymous! it is Nirmala :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-75595176960710091542013-04-03T01:25:03.375-07:002013-04-03T01:25:03.375-07:00As always, lot of thought has gone into this beaut...As always, lot of thought has gone into this beautiful article.<br /><br />Fully agree with you shreya. Compassion transcends both sympathy and empathy because it converts feelings into action. <br /><br />But it is very difficult to get out of “empathizing” mode. We get so pulled into others’ problems that we lose ourselves in them. We even go to the extent of being self judgmental or critical about ourselves or we are always in problem solving mode that we fail to realize our self-inflicted pain in return. <br /><br />“Be compassionate to others” is what we have been taught but never have we been taught to have compassion for ourselves. If we don’t take care of ourselves, after a certain point, we lose balance. <br /><br />Though most of us know that we should not be hard on ourselves and should be self-compassionate, we fail to do this for the fear of being selfish! <br /><br />Child and caretaker <br /><br />Here also, don’t you think sometimes we might over react and marshmallow the child passing the message inadvertently that the child is helpless? <br />The child starts clinging to you particularly if it is of a dependant type.<br />How and where do we draw the boundaries?<br /><br /> “owning and yet not owning” having a sense of detached attachment might go a long way in saving ourselves from the hurt, especially if you are in a helping profession.<br /><br />May be you can write about self compassion in your next post<br /><br />Being an emotional anchor is very challenging shreya. <br /><br />OMG, I don’t know what all I have written.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-36325251405732449162013-03-28T00:59:55.221-07:002013-03-28T00:59:55.221-07:00@Gyanban
Absolutely ... i think the main reason o...@Gyanban<br /><br />Absolutely ... i think the main reason of such approval is we have always learned that approval is the only way of evaluating self.<br />I mean we have always created an image of ourselves depending on what others think about us. Most people use this as a tool to blackmail us to make us feel guilty and we use it too in a similar way.<br /><br />You have given me a good thought to think over i shall now work on this a very important point to remember.<br /><br />Thank you very much for your comment. Just been to your blog very inspiring shall read more of it soon.<br />Keep visiting.<br /><br />Regards<br />ShreyaShreyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15186435108883720247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-46198739629843145752013-03-27T17:00:40.574-07:002013-03-27T17:00:40.574-07:00The root cause for all suffering,especially the on...The root cause for all suffering,especially the ones not self inflicted are because of a high need for approval.<br />People love it when someone else tells them they are good and or get affected when they are told otherwise.<br /><br />Getting rid of this emotion,will enable someone to look at things objectively,which is an easier way to deal with things rather than an irrational emotional point of view.<br /><br />Cheers<br />GBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-34607044457017887172013-03-20T00:02:57.910-07:002013-03-20T00:02:57.910-07:00@james
Now coming to your point-- considering we ...<br />@james<br /><br />Now coming to your point-- considering we become self compassionate.<br /><br />Boundaries -- with Self there is hardly any boundary, no one better than yourself will understand the reason behind what you did and what happened ... no one ever will. So trust respect and honesty is best maintained with self.<br /><br />Self honesty -- Reality is a perceived view of situation. When we try to become Self compassionate we mold our perception to see that we have tha capability of rising above every situation that then becomes our reality. There is no complete reality except the Supreme Truth. Everything else is already filtered and edited as per our liking. :-)<br /><br />Communication -- When Self compassion finds a mate within the feelings become the language. Yes a bit of clarity is definitely needed to even explain yourself... so a bit of positive reading and understanding helps but there is no dearth of understanding "the language" from Self by Self.<br /><br /><br />I could have explained your 2nd point wrt others but there is no point depending on others in times of pain. The more Self compassionate you grow the more Self sufficient you become.<br /><br />This does not mean you do not share your pain with others but this just means that we are available for ourselves 24x7. Lets give our shoulders to be cried on but never our heads to be bend on them.<br /><br />Thank you James :) i hope i could answer both your points , if there is still something that i missed or misunderstood do let me know. Glad to discuss it with you here. :)<br /><br />Also please if you can mail me your id at shreyam_11@rediffmail.com<br />so that i can add you up at FOLLOW VIA EMAIL, that way you would not have to work hard to find my new posts... they shall be dropped at your Email door step.<br /><br />:) My pleasure to have readers like you.<br /><br />Thank you.<br />Regards<br />Smiling Shreya :)<br />Shreyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15186435108883720247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-91801016107361973642013-03-20T00:02:32.216-07:002013-03-20T00:02:32.216-07:00Hi James,
Nice to see you here again :)
And thank...Hi James,<br /><br />Nice to see you here again :)<br />And thanks for going to Speakingtree.in , do you read it there often. Never saw you there. And yes i smile everywhere not just at Speakingtree.in even here :) don't I smile all the time :) I just like smiling anyway doesn't matter. I am glad you read my post even there.<br />Thank you.<br /><br /><br />When i was creating this post I did not consider into my mind the very happy moments or celebrations or even remarkable success of others in my mind. You are right one may want to reinforce the celebratory aspect of it. But what i often find is that when we are successful and overwhelmed with happiness we throng around us anyway, because they know how to behave in case of an happy event ...except a few jealous people ;)... most often what people are unaware is how to handle when there is pain on the other side.<br /><br />More so in case of happiness and success we have little need or emotional vacuum .. yes we do need listener to share who are not jealous or skeptic about those joys but the vacuum is absent. In short positive energy is more than negative energy around us, so the need of validation reduces. (Correct me if I am wrong -- i replied as per I understood your point , if there is something i skipped PLEASE do let me know.)<br /><br /><br />The second point that you raised is very relevant. What to do when you are the child and not the care taker.<br />When you are not the Care taker to anyone convert yourself into Care taker of self. Very often we have heard about counseling self And SELF COMPASSIONATE.<br /><br />I should have made this a part of my post but i didnt thank you for bringing this to my notice. <br /><br />The idea that there is no one to take care of us is extremely detrimental. It avoids you to help yourself. And then you keep thinking about the problem and keep pitying yourself. You can see numerous such examples around. So yes we must develop the habit of being Self Compassionate.<br /><br />In this respect i think 3 points become very important.<br />a) Be gentle to yourself , accept that there is a suffering that needs your attention.<br /><br />b) Don't blame yourself , mistakes are part of life .. we all think we are right when we do the work but once it fails we start blaming ourself, getting over is very imp. I explained this in a post of mine. http://simplyshreya.blogspot.in/2011/10/forgive-yourself.html<br /><br />c) Understand you are the best help to yourself. You are the one who motivates self and can pull out yourself of any tragedy, so never underestimate your capacity of loving self and ability of getting over a situation.<br />Shreyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15186435108883720247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2558578402699001119.post-14002361753525856722013-03-19T21:50:43.287-07:002013-03-19T21:50:43.287-07:00Hello again Shreya!
I had just been reading a dis...Hello again Shreya!<br /><br />I had just been reading a discussion on speakingtree.in, when I noticed your smiling face on the page, for your piece "TIME- my healer??" and thought to myself "Hm, I wonder if she has something new on her blog?".. and so you do!<br />Your descriptions of the three types are quite suitable, and the suggested method for training one's mindset to understand and practice compassion seems quite practical and easy to understand.<br /><br />There are two things that struck me, that I wish to share:<br /><br />1. While of course suffering is the<br />primary focus of discussions involving sympathy/empathy/compassion, consider also those feelings which may be quite strong, and engender a desire to share, that are positive- such as an unexpected remarkable success, or finally understanding some idea that had long remained impenetrable to you.. celebration, as well as commiseration, requires communication (although of course there are the private joys and victories of life, but I am not referring to these). Going back to your Child/Caretaker scenario, one may not feel the same delight as a toddler who has just learned to tell time, but one may certainly reinforce the celebratory aspect of it. Anyway, just some thoughts..<br /><br />2. There is the other side also<br />of compassion in our relations with<br />others: when we are in that place of the Child, as it were. <br />This involves several factors, like<br />*Boundaries- how much is too much, given the listener? What are the conditions of trust/respect/honesty with this other person?<br />*Self-honesty- do I allow myself to see the reality of my internal state, or do I filter and edit what is there, before even facing it privately?<br />*Communication- even if there are no issues with boundaries or self-honesty, am I able to express meaningfully and accurately my state- will the listener understand "my language"?<br /><br />Not only does improving one's "listening" improve one's "speaking"- but the converse is also true ;)<br /><br />I am sorry for rambling on and on,<br />but at least you know I do indeed <br />happily read and ponder the words<br />of Shreya :)<br /><br />Jamesnoreply@blogger.com